Understanding the patterns that bind your wellbeing to others — and building a more grounded, independent sense of self.
Codependency is one of the most common — and least named — patterns in human relationships. It shows up when our sense of self, our emotional stability, and our sense of safety become too tightly bound to the state of another person: their mood, their approval, their needs, their wellbeing.
If you recognise a tendency to put others' needs consistently above your own, to feel responsible for how people around you feel, to struggle with saying no, or to find your mood rises and falls with the state of a key relationship — this may be what you're navigating.
Codependency typically has roots in early experience — in families where emotional needs were not reliably met, where love felt conditional, or where a child took on a caregiving role. It is not a character flaw. It is a learned strategy for staying safe and connected — one that often made sense at the time, and has since stopped serving you.
It frequently appears alongside addiction — either in the person with the addiction, or in those close to them.
I work through a combination of psychodynamic exploration — understanding where the pattern comes from — and practical coaching that helps build clearer boundaries, a more grounded sense of self, and healthier patterns in relationships.
The goal is not to become less caring. It is to develop the kind of self-connection that allows you to care for others without losing yourself.
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